I almost dropped the pot I was washing last night when I heard on the BBC that an elderly Paraguayan couple have finally memorialized their union in a societally-culturally-religiously dictated ceremony of matrimony. They decided to do this after 80 years of having lived together.
At the ripe age of 103, wheelchair-bound Jose Manuel Riella, vowed his undying commitment to his long-time love, Martina Lopes, 99 years old, in a garden ceremony at their residence in Santa Rosa de Aguaray. The ceremony was reported to have been attended by their 8 children, 50 grandchildren, and 20 great-grandchildren.
The couple had a civil wedding 49 years ago but had not gotten around to the religious ceremony. The bride, who wore a long white dress, was moved by the religious blessing. The ceremony was followed by celebration at their home .
Congratulations and Best Wishes!
Fancy that! I guess one can say it’s never too late, huh! But they sure took their sweet time about it. No regrets, I hope! They might not live through a painful divorce, no pun intended there!
As The Saying Goes
There is a Filipino saying that would be quite apt for this: Huli man daw at magaling, naihahabol din! Loosely translated, it means, “Better late than never.” But of course there’s a lot that’s lost in the translation.
On Couplings and Unions
It seems that there are many aspects to the dialogue of unions and couplings that have evolved in the last 100 years. It used to be that just about every young adult aspired to one day marry and have children. It also used to be that unions were exclusively heterosexual and for most, uniracial and sanctioned by some religious organization. Nowadays, unions can be hetero- or homosexual, interracial, biracial, multiracial. Interdenominational, multi-religious, or completely non-religious (civil unions). Mostly between two consenting adults. There are also the recognized states of SBC and CBC, i.e., single-by-choice and/or childless-by-choice. Did I miss any other options?
And yet, there are still parts of the world where young children are betrothed way before they could even wrap their heads around the concept. Young women are promised and married off to men who are three to four times their age, to be their umpteenth wife, way before they are able to understand the ins and outs of relationships. These may or may not be sanctioned by a religious organization and/or a government. Or, couples are matched and meet for the first time the day before their wedding. There are still those countries where couples who have seen their relationship go south in spite of best efforts are not able to amicably walk away with the blessings of their religious affiliations and/or government.
These things never cease to amaze me.