We Will Miss You, Scott

Sunny Day at Scott's Memorial at their family yard, Halton Hills, Ontario, Canada, September 14, 2013, photo credit (c) Likeitiz

Sunny Day at Scott’s Memorial at their family yard, Halton Hills, Ontario, Canada, September 14, 2013, photo credit (c) Likeitiz

Two weekends ago, we made our way to our old stomping ground in Toronto to be with some dear friends.  We wanted to bid a friend farewell.  More importantly, we wanted to spend time to revel in his life, his work, his family, and the friendship we will sorely miss.

Scott’s passing was unexpected, unforeseen, totally from left field.  One Sunday evening, he was series-bingeing late at night in their family room, a pastime he had recently taken on.  By the next morning, it was too late for any kind of intervention.

Scott's Photos with Family, Favorite Overalls, other memento, Halton Hills, Ontario, Canada, September 14, 2013, photo credit (c) Likeitiz

Scott’s Photos with Family, Favorite Overalls, other memento, Halton Hills, Ontario, Canada, September 14, 2013, photo credit (c) Likeitiz

We had promised Sheelagh, his wife, that we would come, no matter what.  We kept our promise.  We snuck away from work and any tethering ties in San Francisco briefly, to be with Sheelagh and her two kids, their extended family, friends, and Scott’s colleagues at the U of T.

We were blessed with a gorgeous almost Fall weekend just outside Toronto, in Halton Hills, where they made their home on a 30+ acre farm.  We listened as family and longtime friends spoke, remembering Scott and the various people he has touched in his lifetime.  We were able to reconnect with family and friends who we had met over the years that we were friends in T.O.  It was endearing that some of them even remember me as one of Sheelagh’s bridesmaids at their wedding.

Scott's U of T stuff: Hoodies, Sweats, a book Scott co-authored on Quantitative System Performance, photo credit (c) Likeitiz

Scott’s U of T stuff: Hoodies, Sweats, a book Scott co-authored on Quantitative System Performance, photo credit (c) Likeitiz

Scott, we will sorely miss you.  But you don’t cease to be a friend even when you have passed on.  You will always still be G. Scott Graham, husband to Sheelagh (Kemp), father to Steven and Shelby, professor of Computational Science and Mathematics at U of T, author of books, gentleman farmer.  More than anything, you will always be a dear dear friend: my first ever friend who had one eye green and the other blue, who crooned with a deep voice, and danced at the cottage with Sheelagh when the radio show would end with an old song at 11:00 p.m.

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4 Responses to We Will Miss You, Scott

  1. Pingback: I Know I Will Make That Call | Likeitiz

  2. You are truly a great friend. Scott is smiling in heaven knowing how much he is loved and remembered. My thoughts and prayer for him and his family. Beautiful tribute.

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  3. Lucid Gypsy says:

    Too sudden and too soon, sounds like a wonderful man.

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  4. Nice tribute, yours of and for Scott.

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