This month, we celebrated our anniversary. I wanted a quiet celebration. One with a few friends and family. Nothing too fancy or contrived. Just an impromptu trip to a brunch place that’s become a recent favorite, Cafe des Amis.
Another year gone by, another adventure experienced! That’s what I’d like to think of it. I look at the people around me, and I think, as the years advance, we’d like to think we’re not just getting older, feeling it in our joints and having to strain our eyes to see and read better. We’d like to think that we are wiser about many many things. This may be a tired well-worn adage but it has never lost its relevance.
Does being wiser give us license to nod slowly with the knowing look in our eyes, our lips curling up to a partial wistful smile, our backs no longer tensing up, signaling defensive mechanisms all at attention? All this at news from much younger folk just starting out in the world?
Does being wiser make us more patient, seeing less need to rush or to move on impulse, learning through the years that to hang back and to view the situation more dispassionately may prove the better option to arrive at the more discerning course of action or decision?
Does being wiser mean we learned that there have been minutiae we agonized and obsessed about, and we know people are still agonizing and obsessing about the same things, really “don’t amount to a hill of beans in this crazy world,” years down the road?
Does being wiser mean we look at our partners and appreciate the lines, the creases, the receding hairline, the graying temples? Have the small peeves become part of getting along, that we can fondly poke fun at sometimes, if only to keep us grounded on the big picture? Does living in and moving around in the same space, liking similar comforts or comforted by familiar places and things—make us all too monochromatic to our children?
Celebrating a day to commemorate a pact, a vow to remain committed, a pledge to do and be a lot of things, is to affirm the vow, the pact, the pledge. Nothing is forever. But we can work towards a long time.
I look forward to the next!
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