On Anniversaries

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This month, we celebrated our anniversary.  I wanted a quiet celebration.  One with a few friends and family.  Nothing too fancy or contrived.  Just an impromptu trip to a brunch place that’s become a recent favorite, Cafe des Amis.

Another year gone by, another adventure experienced!  That’s what I’d like to think of it.  I look at the people around me, and I think, as the years advance, we’d like to think we’re not just getting older, feeling it in our joints and having to strain our eyes to see and read better.  We’d like to think that we are wiser about many many things.  This may be a tired well-worn adage but it has never lost its relevance.

Does being wiser give us license to nod slowly with the knowing look in our eyes, our lips curling up to a partial wistful smile, our backs no longer tensing up, signaling defensive mechanisms all at attention? All this at news from much younger folk just starting out in the world?

Does being wiser make us more patient, seeing less need to rush or to move on impulse, learning through the years that to hang back and to view the situation more dispassionately may prove the better option to arrive at the more discerning course of action or decision?

Does being wiser mean we learned that there have been minutiae we agonized and obsessed about, and we know people are still agonizing and obsessing about the same things, really “don’t amount to a hill of beans in this crazy world,” years down the road?

Does being wiser mean we look at our partners and appreciate the lines, the creases, the receding hairline, the graying temples?  Have the small peeves become part of getting along, that we can fondly poke fun at sometimes, if only to keep us grounded on the big picture?  Does living in and moving around in the same space, liking similar comforts or comforted by familiar places and things—make us all too monochromatic to our children?

Celebrating a day to commemorate a pact, a vow to remain committed, a pledge to do and be a lot of things, is to affirm the vow, the pact, the pledge.  Nothing is forever.  But we can work towards a long time.

I look forward to the next!

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7 Responses to On Anniversaries

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  2. Belated Anniversary. Congratulations for the years of love and triumph over the challenges that you both did together as a couple. Your reminded me of my parents when they celebrated their Ruby wedding anniversary. I was teary eyed when I saw my mom cry as each one of us children gave a testimony of their love for us through the years. Wishing you and your husband a life full of love, joy , peace and good health. Hope this gift will bring a smile to your day…
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  3. lidipiri says:

    “Nothing is forever but we can work on a long time.” Brilliant!
    I really liked your post. I have started a travel one for a trip I am making and it holds a lot of how I think and feel about things.
    Your post gives us an opening to your heart and it it those kind that I like the most.
    Thanks for sharing!

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  4. auntyuta says:

    All is o.k. The pictures came back and my message is there also. I don’t know what happened before. I get ready now for my morning walk with my neighbour. Have to read your other blogs some other time.

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  5. auntyuta says:

    Congratulations on your anniversary, Mary-Ann! How many people ended up coming to your brunch? I clicked the like button, but my picture seems to disappear. Hope this message is going to reach you. Love Uta

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  6. eof737 says:

    Congratulations on your anniversary! Hope the meal and outing added more joy to your day… 🙂

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  7. samestoy says:

    Hi,
    I am writing a book called “So…How Did You Meet Anyway?” It is a collection of all types of people’s “how we met” stories.
    I have posted the stories which have been sent in on;
    So…How Did You Meet Anyway?
    http://wwwsohowdidyoumeet.blogspot.com/
    I am always shopping for stories and I would like to add yours. Please check out the site, and if you would like to contribute your “how we met” story contact me at;
    susan.amestoy@gmail.com
    And if you would like any more information about the blog or the upcoming book, here is a link to a television interview I did recently.
    http://www.wcax.com/story/14708398/author-collecting-love-stories

    Take care and…congratulations!
    Susan

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